This week we are going to talk about how to get what we want, or at least what we need.

 A few weeks ago we discussed the basic human needs we all share and how our feelings let us know if we are getting our needs met (positive feelings) or not (negative feelings).

Have you ever been in a bad mood and did not know why?  This is very common because very few of us ever figure out what it is we really need. 

Sometimes we know we want something but don’t know exactly what it is. 

Have you ever known that you want something to eat but don’t know exactly what?  You may stand in front of the pantry or the refrigerator just staring.  You can spend a long time staring at the shelves and still walk away unsatisfied.  But if you figure out ahead of time what you want, you go to the kitchen and get what you want quickly.

Take the time to identify your feeling and identify the need behind it.  That way, you are much more likely to have your need met.  And when you make a request of someone else, you know exactly what you want.