For the next two weeks we will be going over table manners.

Eating is supposed to be a pleasurable experience.  Table manners are important because they are a collective set of guidelines that have been set up so that everyone can enjoy the meal. 

Some of the guidelines may seem a little bit overboard, but if you know them, you are ready to hobnob with the rich and famous, go to that formal dinner at the White House, or meet your future in-laws.

During our discussion of table manners, we will be using the setting of a dinner party.  Some of the guidelines we discuss may only be used at a dinner party, but most of them can (and should) be used every day.

Listen.  We are being called to dinner.

Your table manners begin as you approach the table.

Your hostess will let you know where to sit. 

There may be place cards with the guests’ names on them, your hostess may tell you where to sit, or you may be able to sit where you choose.  In each case, stand behind your chair until the hostess is seated or asks you to sit.

Gentlemen, assist the ladies next to you by pulling out their chairs and easing them back toward the table once they are seated.  If you want to see your grandmother with a big smile on her face, try this at the next meal you have together.

Keep personal items, such as keys, glasses, purses, and phones off of the table. 

Once you are seated, put your napkin on your lap.  Remember, you are not waiving in aircraft, you are just unfolding a napkin.  Don’t flap it around in the air.

At the end of the meal, when you leave the table, you will place your napkin beside your plate.  Leave it unfolded. 

As you leave you will also push your chair back under the table.